I'm living so far beyond my income that we may almost be said
to be living apart.
e.e. cummings
Money. You can't live with it, you can't live without it. No
matter how hard you try, there's never enough. The only thing
increasing in your bank account is your debt, and you're beyond
understanding how to make ends meet. Is that how you feel?
Well, there's no need. Getting on an even footing with finances
is hard, but not impossible, when you take small steps. You
didn't get there overnight; you won't get out of it overnight.
It doesn't have to be painful - in fact, you'll be more
successful if you make a game of it.
Here's how to get started: figure out, approximately, how much
you spend in a week on "incidentals" - coffee, a magazine, new
cosmetics, etc. Just keep your sales slips for in your purse and
add them up at the end of the week. This is not grocery money,
car payments, etc.; this is just incidentals - things that you
can live without if you're desperate!
When you have that amount - say it's $30.00 - take that much out
of the bank the following week, and see how much you can have
left over at the end of the week. Use ONLY CASH on those
incidentals. Whatever is left over goes in an envelope somewhere
where you won't spend it.
After a month, see how much you have in your envelope. If it's
$20.00, that's yours to spend on yourself as a reward.
Now, take that amount ($20.00), divide it by four ($5.00), and
subtract that amount from what you've been spending weekly
($30.00-$5.00= $25.00). Now, start again with the reduced amount.
Once you've gotten to the place where this is getting really
uncomfortable, stop, move back to the lowest comfortable figure
and stick with that budget. Take half of what's left over from
your original spending total (in this case, $30.00/2=$15.00),
and apply that to your debt each and every month like clockwork
- make it an automatic payment from your account every month -
even if it's just two dollars. The rest (in this case the other
$15.00) goes in a savings account - also paid automatically. You
can then apply the same principle to groceries, or gas, or any
other expense that is variable and see how far you can
comfortably cut back.
This enables you to save without that "scarcity" mentality that
makes you poor in the first place. Because it's a game and
because you're trying to see how much you have left over at the
end of the month your mindset is not "I can't afford that"
(scarcity) but it's now "I could buy that, but I'd rather see
how much I can save!" (abundance).
There are great resources out there to help you move even
farther ahead. Wonderful programs like "Mvelopes" or Mary Hunt's
"Debt-Proof Living" e-zine. The trick, however, is to always
start small, and move forward slowly, building habits as you go.
Happy spending!
Darlene Hull
www.mom-defrazzler.com
About the author:
Darlene Hull is the creator of the free "Mom-Defrazzler tool" -
52 Tips for Moms to get from Chaos to Calm in One Year and the
"Merry Moms" newsletter, a weekly humour e-zine to help moms
defrazzle with laughter. You can download this tool and
newsletter on her website at
www.mom-defrazzler.com .
