How many times have you felt the need to bash up someone and
found yourself helpless? How many times have you felt like
screaming at your boss but had to restrain yourself? How many
times you wanted to punch a bully but could not?
Not any more if you follow this little advice.
When you are angry with someone, do not fight or confront the
person. As soon as you feel the anger, take yourself in a quiet
place. Preferably sit down on a chair. Take a few deep breaths.
Imagine that the person you want to give out to or thrash up, is
standing in front of you. Then deal with the person in the same
manner as your feelings dictate. If you want to bash them up, do
so. If you want to scream at them, do so. If you want to punch
that person, do so. Carry on doing the activity in your mind,
till you notice your anger calming down. When you are satisfied,
you can stop and then open the eyes.
I have been using this exercise for last many years with my
patients. It does not require confronting the person. You get
the tension and anger out of your system. The other party never
needs to know how angry you felt about them. It does not spoil
your relationship with the person.
About the author:
Pradeep K Chadha is a psychiatrist who helps people with
psychiatric and psychosomatic conditions using meditation and
imagery. He is the author of The Stress Barrier-Nature's Way To
Overcoming Stress, published by Blackhall Publishing, Dublin. He
is based in Dublin, Ireland. His website address is:
www.drpkchadha.com
